How to Deal with Dating Someone Who’s Been Divorced

There is nothing wrong with dating a divorcé/e but here’s some stuff I think y’all should know before you start getting serious about each other. Dating someone who’s divorced can be tricky and you could find yourself asking if it’s worth the trouble. Hopefully this will prepare you for the ride.

• Excess Baggage

Like it or not, dating a divorcé or a divorcée comes with a lot of baggage. You have to accept this baggage if you want to date them. You might have to deal with kids, exes, commitment issues, lack of time, and several other issues.

• The Ex

Not every divorce is completely bitter and they might keep in touch with the ex. Or, they might have kids together, so they obviously have to see the ex. Dealing with the ex can be a problem for many. If you really like this person, you’re gonna have to get used to the presence of the ex.

• Children

They may or may not have children but if they do, you’ve got to get used to the fact that their children will probably always come first. Plus, having children might mean you might not get as much intimate time together as you like.

• Relationship Needs

Divorce can have different effects on different people. Your partner might become commitment phobic and not want a serious relationship at all. Or, they might become overly clingy and desperate and want to get serious from the get-go. On a different note, they might not even be ready for a relationship yet, and you could just be a rebound!

• Experience

A divorcé or a divorcée is someone who’s been there and done that so they are bound to be more worldly wise and experienced about a lot of things you haven’t had the chance to do or see yet. This can be exciting or putting off, depending on your outlook.

Look, I’m not trying to scare y’all off dating someone who’s been divorced. I’ve done it and learnt there’s some stuff that is really hard to handle while others, not so much. I’m just saying know what you’re getting into because it’s unfair to blame them later for being divorced. They can’t change that but your attitude can change! It can be a lot of fun but it can be tough and you’ve got to mentally prepare yourself for it.

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