Tips for Black Singles: Survive the Holiday Season Without a Date

There are certain times of the year when it’s harder to be single. The holidays are the worst of them. I’ve been single through several holiday seasons and I’ve been bugging out about my single status. I worried too much and enjoyed myself too little. But this year’s going to be different

1. Enjoy Being Single

Really, what’s up with being single? You don’t have to worry about whose family to spend the important days with; you spend less and you pretty much get to eat whatever you want without worrying about getting dumped because you put on a few pounds!

2. Don’t Apologize

There’s always that one relative at the family dinner who thinks you’re going to die single because you’re still single these holidays. Don’t apologize for being single. G-up for the comments and questions because you know they’ll be coming your way whether you like or not. You can either just ignore them or come up with your own replies for them. But never apologize for going solo. It’s your life not theirs.

3. Pair Up

There’s nothing like pairing up with a single pal to get you through the season. Be each other’s companions through the season. Being with someone else that’s single can make you feel less miserable. And you’ll end up having lots of fun too.

4. Don’t Lose Hope

Don’t let the festivities get you down. Don’t tell yourself you’re never going to find someone. Mushiness and couple-dom goes completely OTT this season and it can make you feel like if you’re not with someone now, you’ll never be. But this isn’t the last Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Year. There will be more, and have faith, you will find someone soon.

5. Don’t Be Desperate

Not having a girl or guy over the holidays can drive us crazy sometimes. Don’t be falling in love with the first guy or girl you see because you’re afraid of being single. Your desperation is only going to lead to heartbreak so why head down that road? You’ll find someone soon enough!

Don’t give up on love people, and remember to enjoy your holidays because I know I will!

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